Have you ever gotten to a point where you are completely unhappy and stuck in your life, and you have absolutely no idea what to do?! Well, that’s me right this very moment. I know what you are thinking, how is that possible when you have this young, fresh new blog, and we see all your great photos on instagram, and so on. Honestly, that is only one part of my life that you see. There is so much more going on with me behind the scenes that most everyone doesn’t know about. And I am about to share it with you right here, right now!
Truth is, I have been unhappy with my life for a very long time. Part of that time I didn’t realize how unhappy I was and am. The hard part, and the good part is, when you finally do become aware of it. The question is what do you do when you become aware of how unhappy you are? The only answer I had at the time was, I have no idea! I was on Facebook one day scrolling through my feed and I came across a post about this book called Find Your Happy by Shannon Kaiser. I saw the post a couple of times before I finally checked out the book. Something told me I really needed to read it, that there was something there that I needed to learn. So I bought the book, and since then I have followed Shannon and what she continues to do.
Find Your Happy is about Shannon’s’ life and how she hit rock bottom to realize that her life just wasn’t working out for her. She realized that she seriously needed to do something or who knows what would happen to her. The book is about her journey to finding her true self, and how she has manifested this incredible life for herself. She shares this journey and all the things she has learned as a life coach with others who need that same kind of help. The only difference is, she’s there to help guide you, rather than do it all by yourself like she did.
Shannon is coming out with her third book, Adventures For Your Soul, set to release on August 25th. I was fortunate enough to have the opportunity to review the book prior to release. With any book from Shannon however, once I get into it, I really have to get into it. It’s not like I can just skim the book and pop out a review saying how great the book is. Shannon’s books will grab you and put a mirror up to your face and show you that you can’t walk away till you figure out what’s going on with you. That is exactly what this will book will do to you.
So grab a blanket, get comfy, we are about to get real honest here!
As I started to read this book, I was thinking okay, this is nice and all, but why am I not getting pulled into it yet? I found this unusual especially when it comes to Shannon’s work. Well it really had to do with me, not the book. Once I hit chapter 4, I suddenly woke up to what she was saying and got totally sucked in.
Do you remember what you wanted to be when you grew up? It was probably something like a doctor, a firefighter, a ballerina, or in my case Wonder Woman. I definitely would have made a bad ass Wonder Woman! The next question is, do you remember when you stopped dreaming about being any of those things and started living life like it was your job? Yeah, i’m not sure either. I just know that I did. Dreams are supposed to be the place that we can be anything we want to be, or live any life we want to live. Looking at my life right now, I know that it is nothing like I imagined it would be. I imagined myself living a life much bigger and more adventurous life than this. I find myself comparing my life now to the life I want to be living. It’s creating this huge struggle inside of myself that I don’t know how to handle.
Shannon calls this the “Are We There Yet” mentality. “Are we there yet” is when we look outside of ourselves and focus on what we don’t have. By focusing on what we don’t have, we don’t focus on what we should be doing. I have felt stuck in this continuous pattern for so long now, that I don’t know how to break the cycle. And although I am more than halfway through this book, I’m still not quite sure how to do it. What I do know is that I am beginning to feel a shift within me. Like there is some sunlight starting to peak through a crack in the door that I have been struggling to open for so long.
What’s become very apparent to me through this process is that I have become comfortable being uncomfortable. This concept literally jumped off the page and smacked me in the face when I read it. The sad thing is that a lot of us have become comfortable with being uncomfortable. And it breaks my heart for everyone that I see in the same situation. I have become comfortable taking jobs that I have no interest in. I have become comfortable constantly struggling paycheck to paycheck. I have become comfortable distancing myself from people so they won’t reject me when they see how weird or messed up I really am. I have become comfortable covering my body up even though I have lost 40 lbs. None of these things are comfortable! All of them are uncomfortable! But it’s what I know feels safe to me. And I just want to cry….I have become comfortable not loving myself the way I deserved to be loved.
So when do I start taking myself seriously and deciding that I matter? Right now, this very second, or actually when I started grasping the concept as I read the book.
I know I am just barely just touching on some of the things in this book as I write this review. But the truth is, I am not done reading the book. Its not the kind of book that I can just read through and be done. There is a journey for me to follow in this book and there is going to be a lot more that I have to say about it, and me. What I do hope is that based on everything that I have shared with you so far, that there is something here that strikes a cord with you. Something that is telling you that you might need to read this book too.
I feel like I have a reason to hope that things are not going to stay the way that they are with me. That there is a lot more life out there for me to live, and it’s just waiting for me to get onto the same track that it’s going. So check back with me soon because I am going to have a lot more to tell you.
To learn more about Shannon Kaiser, check out Play With The World.